Hi all, I hope you don't mind me dropping by in the BPD forum, I just have a question that yall might be able to answer.
My cousin has BPD, I don't know a great deal about, but I do know a moderate amount. The other day I remembered something she did to me years ago that I still haven't got over, and the thought came to me that maybe it was because of her BPD that she did it.

I have always had a thing about my hair, I was bullied a lot when I was younger and people always picked on my hair because it's so curly and it was very frizzy, I didn't know how to look after it. People always commented about it, asking me if I was so poor I couldn't even afford a brush or a comb, and every time I had it cut the hairdresser would always be, uh, over enthusiastic with the scissors, claiming it needed that much to be cut off, even when I made it clear I wanted no more than a certain amount cut. I've tried forever to grow it long, and after 23 years it still isn't as long as I've been striving for. But it would be by now if it wasn't for my cousin.

Maybe 7 years ago, I asked her to cut some split ends off my hair. I trusted her, and I showed her exactly how much I wanted done- less than an inch. Well I gave her the scissors, thinking that she's cut that amount. Until she finished. I looked on the floor and saw how much she'd cut off, and nearly hit the roof. She had cut off a good 20cms, making my hair (when straightened) from almost the middle of my back, to above my shoulders. She literally cut half my hair off, and I had to go to the hairdresser to get it professionally cut because of what she'd done.
For years I had no idea why she'd do just a thing, it was quite obviously no mistake at all. I wondered if she did it out of jealousy, because she always used to copy me when we were teenagers, and I think she still does it a little now. I then found out a few years later from her brother and sister that she had indeed cut half my hair off intentionally, she had admitted to them it was no accident.

Yes I am still angry about it, I know it's been a while and maybe petty to be mad about after so long, but I'm very touchy with my hair as I said because of the way I was treated years ago. So I was wondering (and please excuse me if I am totally wrong), could she have done this because of her BPD?

Thanks guys