That's a good insight into your brother, sharita. He wanted a father that cared about him and was involved in his life, and it didn't matter to him whether it was healthy or not. This might sound weird, but do you really want to change his mind about that? In your place, my first reaction would be to really push him out of his dream world and make him face reality...maybe because I wanted him to stick up for me. But I don't really know if that would really help him or me.