First, I don't want to exaggerate the problem. I'm not attracted to the point of hopelessly in love with anyone. Just, sometimes when reading , or posting I find myself attracted to the person without any seemingly sensible reason.

In my own defense, people make judgements of attraction all the time. You or I might go to the conveniece store and see someone we wouldn't be put off by if they approached us, yet see someone else and we would be put off by them if they approached us.

So, any way, for example violet, you have a feminine avatar, you're question here shows interest or concern, which I might take as directed to me personally, and the way you express your self in the question shows an empathy in trying to understand what I'm getting at. Therefore, I could, to a degree, start drawing ideas of what type of person you are and start becoming attracted to this set of ideas.

Yet, I don't really know you and it's presumptuous of me to start fantasizing about you.

And I understand Byzantines point that I need to respect everyone else. You people are not a plate of food placed here to satisfy my appetite.

So, I guess, it bothers me that I can focus on attractions that are unhealthy at the expense of getting any real help with my depression.

Almost as if the only help I need is to want somebody and be wanted by them in return.