Evening, I think you mentioned that even when you have gone to the beauty salon the hair dressers have tended to overdo the trim. Unless you want to hazard a guess that all hair dressers have borderline personality disorder I don't think you can consider your cousin's overzealous trim to being boarderline. As Perna mentioned, you've taken a lot of grief from people over the subject of your hair. A person's hair, particularily women, is a very very personal thing. I can only imagine how hurt and dismayed you were by your cousin's haircut. I think a conversation with her about the topic is in order, especially since you're still upset about the incident seven years later. If she's able to muster up the necessary empathy about how hurtful this was for you, she owes you a big apology!