I agree with DocClyde. I feel for the OP. I'm in a relationship with a married man, however, they separated a year ago. After hearing from him the reason for not leaving a very terrible marriage that was based on lies, I've actually been so disillusioned with the whole institution of marriage. I believe 50% (this is a real statistic, btw,) of people these days DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT get marriage for the right reasons. It is very sad that the 37 year old appears to be less mature than the 25 year old. NWETT85, I wish I could find someone like you. Even though I like my boyfriend, I feel so tangled in his spider web mainly because his past with his wife continues to affect me...... believe it or not, you are very strong for getting involved in this situation.....deep down.....I think you know you will come through even stronger. I could never ever deal with being with my boyfriend if he was going back home to his wife. This is hard enough already!! ANd he even wants a divorce, but the funds are simply not there. It should be more expensive to MARRY rather than divorce. Most people in this world are not blessed with entering into a perfect relationship. Mainly, I believe most relationships we have throughout life are MEANT to be learning experiences. Sucks to go through life experiencing much heartache over lost love, but despite my current experience, I also believe that TRUE and REAL love cannot be lost. If it seems that way, maybe the love you thought was there was just an illusion. I wish you peace.