My old T was like a mom to me. I got very attached and felt like a child in her office. She was incredibly warm and sweet, so compassionate that it became like a drug to me.

My new T doesn't put much of her own "presence" in the room. She doesn't remind me of anyone. She's very unassuming, not emotional but not at all cold, challenging at critical moments, only turning my own logic back on me, never anything of her own. She's compassionate, but not sweet. My T's in the past were all easy to get to know, even though they said very little about themselves, because of the style of logic they used as well as personal demeanor. This T is impossible to know. I don't know what she is like at all. But in a way that is not frustrating at all for me, which is very weird since I've been obsessive about T's in the past. In fact, it is a total relief. Instead of focusing on her, her reactions, what she must think, etc, I think more deeply about the issues I am bringing in to therapy.

She has a style that works well for me to make this possible. I am really glad to be relieved of my obsession.