Sharita, your post and all of these answers has struck me. I come from a family of many sibs and each one has his/her reality. Everyone sees what they see through a different lense then we do. My sibs will not speak about the past. It's the past and they don't want to "KNOW" how bad it was. I think that as much as I feel your need for validation from your brother, you may do better to just understand his colored lense and get your validation here. It is a hard thing. I tried for many years to have some of my sibs validate my experience and it didn't ever happen fully. I hope you can have a healthy relationship based on adulthood and interests with your brother. Also remember that denial is not a river in Egypt. We have it to protect ourselves. Good luck.