Hi embracinglife,

I can really relate. I also recently started both Al-Anon and ACoA (along with therapy). I find the ACoA meetings especially intense. I think all in all, both programs have been making me feel worn out. And confused. And angry. Blah. So many emotions -- mostly I feel like a deer caught in the headlights so I'm trying to at least "just keep coming back." I SO relate to what you described about finding it hard to trust yourself. I find it almost impossible at times and this has come up a lot for me in therapy.
I'm so glad to hear you have been able to make some connections that were helpful for you. The CODA group does sound interesting and I have been thinking of looking into it too. I know this kind of self care isn't always easy. But you are doing the work and that is important. PM me if you would like to talk more...

Elana