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Payne1 said: Hmmm, Ygrec. I guess some folks do behave differently on PC sites than in real life. That's always the risk on dating sites, for example. I see that you aren't too sure about some of the statements I made earlier about being able to overcome "strange" parenting. I agree that parenting starts at day one, and your parents definitely were unusual. So, it could very well be that you might have some problems with very subtle social skills such as appropriate non-verbal behavior. However, that's something, too, that your therapist can monitor and help you with. I honestly can't say that you will be able to correct all the quirks that your parents taught you, but much can be done, if you remain hopeful and keep at it.
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No, Payne1, I don't feel I disagree with what you said about overcoming bad parenting. If you start out your overcoming early enough and intensely enough, it can work quite well. One of my brothers, Gil, was told when he was in tenth grade that he needed a full psychoanalysis. And so, for all his high school years and then for all his college years, he saw a qualified psychoanalyst for five days a week. It lasted seven years. And it worked. He would never talk about it at all, but he wound up in very good shape after starting out in pretty poor shape. As for myself, my concern is that I'm too old to really change my life that way. I'll do my best. I'll fight the good fight. But I do have my doubts. Take care!
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