A few months ago, I suggested a date night once a week, even if it's just in our own home, just to spend time together.

He didn't want that.

This week, I got a copy of the Love Dare at the library, and made cards for each day, editing out all the religous crap because we are not religous. I showed them to him. He laughed. And won't do it with me.

On the surface, our marriage looks fine. We are generally happy, we get along, we rarely fight, we both love our daughter more than anything in the world, and all seems well. Right?

Yeah. We haven't had sex in 3 months, and the time before that was a YEAR.

I wish I could just get over the affectionate side of the relationship but I need him so much. I need to feel wanted.

It's not just in the bedroom, he rarely even kisses me, cuddles, says nice things to me, any of that. It's all business.

I don't know what to do anymore. I know we won't improve that area of our relationship until we are communicating better and actually in love, but I don't know how to accomplish that.

And what if there's some reason for this that he can't control? He's done a few tests in the past, but maybe it's something else we haven't thought of. Maybe at the age of 30 I've just had all the sex I'm ever going to have for the rest of my life. How do I get happy about that?

Can a sexless marriage truly be happy?