I think you will be stronger because of this. I'm so sorry he makes you feel so bad.

My father used to say that too - that people only talk to you and treat you the way you allow. I don't think that's always true, honestly. I don't choose to let people treat me like crap, but sometimes they do.

You're working through it, and it's all you can do at this point. Sadly, no one can change anyone in your family or the family dynamic. I'm working through some of this stuff too, as the issues with my mother are life-long (and I'm almost 40).

You're working hard, and you will make it. Take care! Hope you are feeling a little better today...