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Hi guys-Wondering if anyone has experience with this or advice? I have a best friend, who I've know for probally 22yrs now. She moved out of state about 13 yrs ago while we were in high school, but we still remained close through weekly calls, she flew in by herself (b/c her 'date' bailed on her last minute) to be a bridesmaid in my wedding 2 yrs ago, etc. I have very glad we have been able to keep our friendship going so long, but sometimes I feel she is way to opinionated and just makes me feel worse about an already stressful issues for me. Since I've met her she's always been very opinionated and usually I can just listen to her talk. But lately I feel like she's trying to be my 'counselor' and force opinions down my throat, instead of being my friend. and some of the comments she makes I wonder how she can be a counselor.....like very bitter comments, almost like there's a tinge of jealosy going on, it's very weird. (I don't even really talk to her anymore about 'marriage' issues because of it. I've talked to my mom about it because she's known her since she was little also. My mom used to be friends with her mom, and had to leave the friendship for this same reason. My mom couldn't believe the comments she's made either to me about 'marriage' stuff.) When I do feel hurt with her comments I usally just keep my distance for a week or so, I've done this a few times in the past, she's never noticed or at least doesn't say anything to me. Taking 'breaks' from our friendship has worked in the past, it gives me time to cool off without her knowing I guess. I value our friendship but I don't want opinions forced down my throat.
(Anyways, my friend is a conselor and works with patients in correction facilities.)
Thanks!
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