We have a lady who moved into our community the same time I did who used to work in a correctional facility & she is rude & blunt in her interaction with others. Most people who have gotten to know her have since cut off their friendship to her. Rather sad situation as she just doesn't get that her personality is the problem.

Sounds like with her mother being the same way, it's a learned behavior & she probably doesn't know that there's anything wrong with what she is doing & if no one steps up & expresses that there is a problem with what she is saying then how is she going to learn that what she says can bother others?

Does your friend try to hold you accountable for following her opinions or are they just opinions that she keeps throwing out? Everyone is entitled to have their opinions.....whether we choose to blow them off or listen to them is our own issue. If the opinions are a personal attack on what we are doing or only opinionated beliefs she holds onto is another issue. If they are personal attacks on what is going on in your life, then sometimes listening & possibly getting something out of what is said isn't always a bad learning tool that there are other ways of looking at things.....but if the attacks are just blatantly rude & continually incorrect, then expressing in a very diplomatic way what you are having problems with is a good way for her to learn that she needs to be more sensitive to others & that her opinion isn't always appropriate.

It's a tough situation to be in.....but the bottom line is that if you have tried everything you possibly can to resolve the situation, they you may have to do like your mother did & break off the contact with her.....sad that she wouldn't bother to care to make the friendship work either. I really think that communication with people like that is important otherwise they just keep wondering why people don't ever stay friends with them & they continually put the blame on others rather than realizing that they are a part of why the friendships continually fail.