Me and my ex broke up a little over 3 months ago. The reason she gave was that her feelings towards me had waned. After a hard couple of days of talking but getting nowhere, I suggested breaking up to her, and she agreed. Two days later, she called me and asked if we could take a week long break for her to think stuff through. After the break, she called me and wanted to try and make it work, to try and get that feeling back. We got nowhere, and we broke up. Felt bad, man.

Anyways, I've been feeling mostly over her and doing good in general. However, about a week ago my ex contacted me just to see how I was doing. We talked for a bit and she revealed that she had been missing me like crazy for the past couple of weeks. She went on to tell me how at the time of our breakup, everything about relationships made her really anxious and felt uncomfortable. She reckoned that a big part of this was because her relationship with her friends had deteriorated, not on purpose, but she had just lost contact with most of them, and barely ever saw any of them.

We sort of skirted around the idea of getting back together, but neither of us are willing to just jump back in. We decided that we'll meet a couple times and see how it feels, and just take it easy and see what happens.

We are both pretty flustered by the situation. She said that 3 days ago, she had cried about the breakup for the first time, saying that it felt like the breakup sadness had struck her with a massive delay. She most certainly isn't sure about the situation herself, because the breakup was obviously unpleasant for her as well, as was the couple of months before that. I know I felt like crap pretty much constantly back then.

The possibility of her just keeping me around as backup has crept into my mind, but there is no way of really knowing. I know she has had a few one night stands since the breakup, as have I, but nothing serious and no dates. I do want to give her a chance, but another failure in the relationship is just as unpleasant a thought to me as it is to her.

As I said, I'd like to give it a shot. But in the meantime, I'd like to hear from people in similar situations, or just general opinions