We are learning "cooperative coexistence" but we still have parts that don't communicate for various reasons. I use a communication log so all the parts can talk to each other or say what they need to say because we are still all seperate, except one, who helps alot. I think there are a lot of good suggestions already written and many who are in different stages of DID. I know you will eventually find what works for you eventhough it may not seem like it now. I know I felt that way and things are very different (in a good way), now.