Hey there, I think I've been in a similar situation.

I was really close with 2 people, we hung out together all the time for almost 2 years. One was my room mate for a time. Long story short, the guy "fell in love with me" and when I didn't return that he refused to even speak to me for months. Even now he's weird about it, and I honestly did NOTHING wrong in the situation. I helped him through a break up with his girlfriend, I was a good friend but never suggestive or anything. So that's the same as you, basically, I think.
The other - who knows? First it was that she was too busy with school and her newly found sorority group (which she left not long after) to hang out with me normally. then it was that I didn't call her enough over the summer (after she already wasn't hanging out with me or answering my calls in the first place. Then, it was oh we should hang out, but everytime we tried (or at least I tried) it didn't work. Now, she's my roomie again and we have not actually hung out for over 6 months of living together. She constantly says she wants to but every time I bring it up she says she's too busy and she'll do later in the week... and in the next 30 minutes I see her hanging out with *other* friends in a coffee shop.



I truly understand how horribly frustrating and hurtful this can be. My SO is also a huge part of my life right now because I've lost these people. But one person just can't make up for a group of friends no matter how wonderful that person is.

it's HARD to make new friends. Especially when you were so close to the old ones. HOW CAN YOU EVER TRUST AGAIN? after everything that happened? You have to be gentle with yourself and I think we both need to stretch our limits, and keep trying. Reach out as much as we can, and work to make new friendships with some new people. I think we have to let the others go - we can't change them, and it wouldn't be healthy even if we could.

Thinking of you, nice to meet you, and hope you can find some friends.

((((((UneasyPeasy))))))


ps: sorry if I talked too much about myself but our situations were so scarily similar I thought it would nice to share =)