What I liked about "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me" is that it made me confirm in my mind that I was, in fact, Borderline. At that point I wasn't diagnosed or in treatment - a friend from the internet suggested I read it. It was a wakeup call. Until that point, I hadn't even HEARD OF Borderline. I didn't know what it was. But the stories in that book were exactly like me.

I guess it was sort-of comforting to know what I really had.

But I agree - it's not really a "self-help" book. Try Sometimes I Act Crazy, or the other books mentioned here.