Sounds like a mess.....I was the one with the daughter that caused problems. She is bi-polar and put a huge strain on my last relationship... It ended 6 years ago and she was not responsible but she made it so tough.....Daughter is old enough to have her own place, but its not up to you to get her to move......Believe me these things are what takes its toll on any relatiionship.You probably need to have a serious talk with boyfriend and set up some specific boundries re: daughter but both of you(the boyfriend) will have to agree or it won't work!!

Can you still move in the house and is it the kind of home business that you would have to tell the landlord etc...? Can you run it without the neighborhood knowing for awhile?

RE: Roomate...small claims court is the way to go....but there are fees and then even if you win, you still may not get your money! Such a bummer! There are ways to find her so that should not be a problem.

Sorry for all your drama. I hate drama and try to avoid it whenever possible. Sometimes though its inevitable!