It is what it is....you can do all the things in the world yourself to make a relationship work, but if the other party chooses not to participate...well there is nothing you can do about their participation. They have made a choice.

Now what do you do about you? Can you live like this now, or do you deserve more...The definition of insanity is "doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result!"......Is that you? Sit down and figure what YOU want from any relationship, and does this meet your expectations, and do you deserve more. You only go around life one time......is this the way you seriously want to go?

If you love this person, and are willing to accept things the way the are and accept them just the way they are, then you got to realize they are not going to change!!!!

But.....if you feel that you deserve more,.... then you really need to think about this relationship, and whether you want to really grow old with THIS person!!