Right now I am just lost. Between my family, my boyfriend and work I do not know which way is correct.

Let me first start off with my boyfriend. We have been together for 3 years now and have all the usual relationship problems. Although lately, there has been more problems than usual. In the beginning we used to be intimate a lot but now I just have no desire to. I feel that I am still atracted to him but there is something turning me away. I started to think that is was the fact that he is not romantic and does not cuddle or tell me that he loves me. But I cannot assume anything. Just recently, maybe the past 2 months, he waits until I go to sleep to watch porn and masterbate. This actually bothers me. I just do not know what to do anymore. I have thought about going to see a psychologist to see maybe if I am the problem but keep chickening out. We never kiss except to say goodbye in the morning, never cuddle or hold hands. There is no romance and I do not know how to get it back. I sometimes feel that if I try, I may get rejected. Any thoughts on what to do would be greatly appreciated.

Next problem I am having is with my family. No matter what happens in my life they are a negative factor. They are constantly telling me that my boyfriend is not right for me and that I need to get someone with a promising future. They give me negative thoughts about having children with him and marriage. If there is any mention of another guy being interested in me, they jump at the opportunity for me to go to that person. I just can't take the negativity from them, I feel that they are the cause to my relationship problems. I just am so lost, I do not know what to do.

There is so much more that is making me unsure but I will have to get into it in another post later. But thanks for listening and any assistance would be appreciated.