We tried marriage counseling. First counselor had a stroke after our 2nd appointment (he's fine now, but he was on leave for over 6 months). Second one just didn't have very helpful suggestions for some things, and we ran out of our 6 free EAP sessions so my husband didn't want to keep going. Then I made the mistake of bringing him with me to my own individual therapist. Yeah, don't EVER do that! It didn't turn out well. Especially when she tried to delve into his childhood....not pretty. He wouldn't come back.

If he has some physical thing preventing him from having sex, fine. I'll do without. But what the heck is preventing him from giving me a KISS? Or a hug. Or a cuddle. Even in places where there is no option of it leading to sex at all.

Is there a Viagra for physical intimacy NOT in the bedroom?

The thing is, I love him too much, and I love our daughter too much, to break us apart over something as meaningless as sex. We are generally happy, and honestly I don't think our sex life is having any impact on our daughter. She has no clue. And I would hate to shuffle her between two homes and force me into bankruptcy just because I don't get laid. Then I'll just be single and sexless.

I don't know why I keep going over this. It is the way it is, and I'll never be happy.