Maybe you are forgoing that because you really don't have the feelings for your BF & maybe the fact that you really know it's not the right thing to do & this is a good reason to keep you from doing it?

I always had guy friends because I didn't relate to women even when I was married.....but the friendship never went beyond that & my husband was always the only one that I kept intimate & very personal thoughts between.

When I was in college, I had BF's but that's exactly what they were boys that were friends & there was nothing that went on beyond that. Wasn't until I met the guy that I ended up getting married to that I had any kind of close relationship with....it was the distinguishing point that indicated to me that this was the person I could get married to. Ended up not being the right thing to do the that's another huge long story that lasted way too many years & should have been wise enough before getting married to have listened to my inner voice that was saying NO, not responsible enough....& he never grew out of that state of being...but if he had, he would have been a very good husband.