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Originally Posted by Perna
Can dd go live with her mother or another relative for awhile (and then stay with his mother when you all move out)? Sounds like with the crowded housing getting rid of some of the roommates for a bit would help everyone!
I would move into the house you have to pay for until they re-rent it and see if you maybe can figure out how to do work from elsewhere (his mother's duplex?). Maybe you can exchange services for rent with a friend or other relative or other busines not in that city with the laws?
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DD's mother won't take her back. She's caused too much trouble and been in too much trouble, there. And Grandma won't let her stay here without us, same reason.... In the past, she has stolen her mother's debit card and cleaned out the account to pay for her next high, stolen her mother's car to go see her bf, stolen and sold things from her mother to get her next high.... see the pattern? We keep our wallets and car keys locked in a firesafe at night....
I can't spend the energy to move into the house if we can't stay there... and we've checked the other options. None are workable, for various reasons.
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Originally Posted by madisgram
and how bout small claims court to retrieve some of what old roomie owes you?
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I may end up doing that. Right now, I'm just so stunned that she has done this that I'm still doing a reality check. Know what I mean?
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Originally Posted by missbelle
Sounds like a mess.....I was the one with the daughter that caused problems. She is bi-polar and put a huge strain on my last relationship... It ended 6 years ago and she was not responsible but she made it so tough.....Daughter is old enough to have her own place, but its not up to you to get her to move......Believe me these things are what takes its toll on any relatiionship.You probably need to have a serious talk with boyfriend and set up some specific boundries re: daughter but both of you(the boyfriend) will have to agree or it won't work!!
Can you still move in the house and is it the kind of home business that you would have to tell the landlord etc...? Can you run it without the neighborhood knowing for awhile?
RE: Roomate...small claims court is the way to go....but there are fees and then even if you win, you still may not get your money! Such a bummer! There are ways to find her so that should not be a problem.
Sorry for all your drama. I hate drama and try to avoid it whenever possible. Sometimes though its inevitable!
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DD has been diagnosed as BP but I don't think it's correct. I think she's Borderline and Antisocial. She does not have the life skills to live independently, yet. And she doesn't have the financial means. We are working on boundaries with her, but she is a master of manipulation, and she works a guilt trip on Dad whenever he gives me much attention. She has essentially made any intimacy impossible.... (big sigh)
And I hate drama too. I used to say I was a "drama-free zone".... what happened to that girl???
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Originally Posted by lavieenrose
I'm sorry that you're having so much aggravation in your life. You don't deserve to be going through all of that. I hope that you find workable solutions to these problems soon.
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Ty.
