Hi Kayle

Being in a relationship is very difficult. You and your BF have been together for a significant time period and sometimes, things fizzle out (sexually). This is not a permanant thing thought. I know that hubby and I went through a rough patch (sexually) where I was not interested in having sex. I think it was more about me then it was about him though. I felt uncomfotable with myself, my body and things like that. I do beleive however it started off with a stalled sex life.

Fortunatly, hubby and I are pretty open with eachother and we talk about things like this without fear of hurting eachother. We took some extra steps to spice things up in the bedroom to make things "New and exciting". We have been together roughly 11 years and have been married for a little over 5. It is not unusual for long term relationships to hit a rough spot in this area.

As far as him watching porn after your in bed. Well, I have mixed feeling about that. On one hand I can understand your concern as you may feel that he is no longer interested in you and prefers to watch porn.
For me, my hubby and I enjoy similar things and I make the extra effort to indulge him. Beleive me, this is not only for his benefit but for mine as well. I will watch porn with him on occasion. We attend gentlemens clubs now and then and thins is something we both enjoy that also spices up our love life.

As far as your family go's. You must be straight forward with them and let them know that this is YOUR relationship, not theirs. You have to do what is right for you and for the relationship you are in. Dont be blinded though. If your family has a genuine concern that is unfounded, tell them you appreciate their concern but you are a grown women and can handle yourself just fine.

I wish you luck with this. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.


Jen