{{{{{{{{{{{{{Susan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I know exactly what you mean about financial security and companionship... although the companionship part is doubtful. Only you can make those decisions for yourself. Only you know what is most important to you. I've made the same decision as you have. But you know, with Jerry and me, it's only the two of us. It's "dirty pool" for your husband to drag your son into his own problems. He's not only abusing you, he's abusing your son. Your son should tell his dad to leave him out of it and refuse to discuss anything... even allow him to make nasty remarks to him about the problem.

Only other thing I can say is stop doing ANYTHING for your husband. When you cook, cook ONLY for you and your son, when you do laundry, wash ONLY your clothes and your son's, if you do still do it, when you go out, don't say a word to him, only to your son if he needs to know. Walk out if he starts yelling at you, BUT... if I was you, if he strikes you CALL THE COPS! NO ONE has the right to strike another person! Chances are, they'll only slap his wrists the first time. That may be enough to bring him to his senses and he'll realize that you're not going to put up with his crap. You have to set your boundaries, Susan. Right now, he's doing it because HE CAN. You need to re-teach him how to treat you!

You know I'm right here... right behind you.