I can answer that part. When someone who was a "friend" suddenly leaves I used to have severe abandonment issues and even "acted out" sometimes, with "disasterous" results. I don't think some people want to realise how devastating severe abandonmment issues are. They aren't something that can be ignored or snapped out of any more than the aftermath to rape can

Nor do they make someone "defective" any more than being raped does Abandoment issues in my case are the result of childhood abuse and neglect. Not something that should be punished with further abuse.

I am working on my abandonment issues. When a "friend" leaves now, I hardly react, EXTERNALLY.

It is their choice, although at least it could be done with kindness and respect...... I would hope

When I feel that someone is playing a game, I feel angry. Especially as I was WRONGLY accused of playing a game when I was in great pain and triggered

Thanks for replying
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Take care
Fuzzy