YES YES YES, you can just try anyway!
Ha ha, therapist as fictional mouse! What a brilliant image
And it's a very canny analogy. Here's how I think it works: our therapists inspire and focus, without really fulfilling, strange longings in us. They're larger-than-life surrogate figures, and we layer them over with with incredibly powerful meanings. No single person can be everything we need, the way our parents were (or were supposed to be for us) in infancy. So we realize on some level that this incredibly glowy person is a chimera, something we've created because we need to believe in it. And yet -- we still need to believe.
OTOH, therapists really are there, they're just a lot more limited than we wish they were. Still, they're highly educated and trained, and they're (ideally) compassionate people. Some are gifted at what they do, and they can give us a lot. The main thing I've discovered is that the relationship HAS to work. That chemistry between client and therapist is a big factor, it's just the truth.
It is SO HARD to find the right relationship. I'd rather have to look for a new job right now than have to find a new -- fictional mouse! (sigh)
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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Wow kitten therapists won't talk about past therapies? I guess there are some advantages to that choice, to draw a line but the downside I can imagine is lack of continuity. There is a sort of question when you visit a different therapist-- have you have been in treatment for the same issue before; nobody wants to retread the same ground, and I just don't know how to answer that right now with any answer other than "yes, it was terrible!" or simply lying and say not. There's that cooling off period as Wikid Pissah mentioned.. how funny by the way, three months sounds just right. I am not that creative right now to be able to figure out an answer to how to deal with that. Well maybe I will book a first session and try. Can you just try anyway?
By the way my sister and her family were just sharing some pictures of Disney Land and I realized, it's a whole world devoted to a fictional mouse, so I am starting to cut myself a break about the whole missing the therapist thing.
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