Hmmm... ok, that's an interesting perspective. So it's not so much a feeling of being abandoned as it is being disrespected?

I don't take it that way, myself. It seems to me that the people who do it are feeling very self-absorbed at the time and aren't really thinking of others... so yeah, in a sense I guess it IS disrespectful, but it's not coming from a mean motive but rather their way of coping.

I wouldn't even know what to say in a PM (except for the all-caps people). "Don't post that you're leaving"? "Don't post things that might trigger others"? I'm not sure what I would do if I owned the board. Maybe create a "Hellos and Goodbyes" forum instead of keeping it in General. But I think that's what the Internet Traveller's Forum is intended for, although the name of it always throws me off for some reason.