firstly, self diagnosing is a very slipperly slope! If you honestly feel that you have bpd then i urge you to see a dr who can tell you one way or the other and you can begin to receive any treatment that you require.

secondly, i've been married 6 years this year and you know what, it's hard! Especially when I'm ill. My hubby has no medical issues and he struggles to cope with me (BPD and bipolar and anxiety all diagnosed). So I cant begin to understand how you guys cope with him having aspergers. it cant be easy.

you need to take the time to learn to understand and relate to each other. otherwise things wont work. marriage takes work no matter what else is going on.

I dont think I have learnt to deal with the black and white. i still dont understand how people can see things in shades of grey cos i just cant.