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Ygrec23 · Mar 17, 2011, 01:19 PM

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Rohag said: Rather than being from outer space, I see my early failures setting me permanently out-of-phase with people. Constantly being a little off has taken its toll. I know what it’s like to be strange, to have no confidence in a world that demands confidence. All societies have ways of enforcing their norms. In some, people like me are gassed. In other, “gentler” societies, we’re swept to the fringes, put out of the majority’s mind and misery.
“Uh oh. Different. No soup for you! Next!”

Avoiding the fringe means learning to fit in, that is, unlearning myself. But, ‘knowledge in youth is etched in stone.’ I stretched myself on the Procrustean bed of life, and now I’m maimed. I tried. I try no more. Am I awaiting death, or has he already come?

How’s that for a coloratura performance?

Oh, friend Ygrec! I’m a pessimist, and I fear you are correct. You’ll gain a few tools to increase your social functioning, but, as you understand, they will be but prostheses. No amount of therapy can replace your first years of life.

My concern is can you reach your comfortable? If anyone can, you can, helped by the professionals and in spite of them. The trick is discerning when to heed and when to respectfully ‘take things under advisement.’

This thread is full of goodness, but we must cultivate our garden.

Rohag, Rohag, Rohag. I do believe we just may be on the same wavelength. Yes, I know "what it's like to be strange." As to "being swept to the fringes," yes and again yes. "Knowledge in youth is etched in stone." You betcha. "Gain a few tools." Right, all too right. "No amount of therapy can replace your first years of life." Most definitely. "Reach my comfortable." ??? If I can ever get this economic thing worked out I believe I can "reach my comfortable." "Cultivate our garden." Ah, yes. Candide. The best of all possible worlds. A wonderful title for the autobiography of any of us here on PC. I do thank you. And I do believe your head is screwed on right. Whatever THEY may say. Take care!