wow... that is crazy. its almost as if someone told him to go to your house to see what the condition of it was. that is really unprofessional and I agree with you on that. i would understand your roommates concern if it really had been a huge mess because you were lazy, but any decent person would understand a little mess here or there is because you are sick and have been in and out of the hospital. for someone else to tell her that the house is a huge mess, who knows what she might think the house looks like now. i also think that in the email she could have asked in a better way that the house be taken care of so that she can relax when she gets home. sounds like shes already mad but she hasnt even seen the exact condition. that is so unfair for you. im sorry you are going through this right now. it seems like if you two really were close roommates, she would have called and asked you how the house was instead of getting someone to sneak in there to find out.