Therapy sometimes is helpful, sometimes isn't. How long have you been in therapy for? I've done therapy off and on for about five years with different therapists. I do notice a difference, but it depends a lot on what issues brought you into therapy, how well you get along with the therapist, what type of therapy it is, what your goals are in therapy, and how much personal work you're doing outside of therapy... amongst other things. Sorry, I know this isn't the answer you're looking for.