Sorry that this was a painful statement for you, it was painful for me when I first heard it as well....and also for my daughter. The thing is, anxiety is supposed to be a part of us. We should feel anxious in dangerous situations, driving home in the pouring rain at 2am, walking thru a dark parking lot alone, going thru the worst section of town with your small child in the car, picking your kid up from a fall and seeing blood...all normal and real excuses to feel anxiety. So it should always be there...to that limit.

You and I, we have this excessive anxiety that jumps on us even when we are safe. Tolerating it is learning to slow down that freaked out feeling and remembering you are safe. Way easier said than done. I don't think your T means to "white knuckle", I think she means learning ways you can get thru the anxiety without it taking over.