There is a theory in treating anxiety disorders that exposure therapy provides long-term results. Essentially it has you experience the anxious feelings, rate them on a scale of 1-10 and as you continually expose yourself to anxiety producing situations, the feelings lessen. My guess is that is what she is referring to. Therapists who follow that method of treatment want you to realize the anxiety is just that, anxiety and that the worst case scenarios running through our heads rarely happen.

I'm with you though, not every therapy method is right for every person. Different people respond to different treatment methods. Your T does sound rather blunt - I personally don't respond well to that, I need compassion and understanding.

I think it's a good idea to ask for clarification of what she means by tolerate. Another thought is maybe she is just not the right T for you. I went through 5 T's before I found my current one. I'm not saying bail on therapy, just check with yourself to see if it is possible to find a connection with her.

Good Luck...therapy is tough as it is without having to deal with the other things on top of it.