distressed, sounds like you attempted to set boundaries again in this situation. imho, my thoughts-your family ropes you in all the time. it makes you the fall guy. scapegoat most or all times. due to the extreme disfunction that manifests itself when you do try to help or asked for your opinion, the best suggestion i can give is stay out of it period. it'll frustrate them cause there's a "game" going on in your family, but you can do this. after reading your threads before, distressed, your responding at all is a no win situation. if they don't respect the boundaries you set, get in the car and leave. u can just say oh i have to do so and so, be back in an hour, etc. or say nothing at all. just take your car keys and exit. you may have to do this often but it takes you out of the "arena". obviously your healthy attempts to go into another room in the house doesn't work. regardless of their mud slinging cause you're leaving the house, just do it. i so wish you could move and gain some serenity in your life. right now you're living in a hornet's nest. could you move?