Hopefully the house sells soon. I really don't understand him having a problem with putting it on the market now. It takes a little time to get things sorted and even if it sold right away it takes a month or more for a closing date. You could easily say that you have at least 6 weeks before you would have to be out. I took the house when my first marriage split up and it was scary. I was in alot of debt and did make enough to cover it but if anything happened I would've been in trouble. Finances can be scary and very stressful. I have to disagree about letting him stay a little more for finacial reasons. You know you need to get out of this relationship and it isn't gonna be pain free no matter what you do. You may have to take a finacial risk but in my opinion it is better than another emotional one. Bills will always be there and they can always make life tough. You can rebuild that and work around it in the future. You can't risk more emotional scars. Those can't be cleared up or smoothed over with a little paperwork. If you're like me when your ready to make the jump you have to do it and whatever you have to deal with after, you deal with. Of course it's your decision and you have to go with your gut. Just do what you think is rigth for you.
I wish you the best, I know it's not easy.
Heidu