Yes it is really hard having a mother that doesn't know how to love but want so much love from her children and even if she has that love she cannot feel it.
I am sorry that you are also living a life with a mother that can't love you in return.
I have accepted that my mother cannot love me. What I can't accept is why she still want to destroy me. I will probably never know.
Take care of youself! It's nice to have you here with us!