I am sorry I haven't been back on to reply to everyone who took the time to post. I much appreciated all of the comments and advice.

Things have changed quite a bit over the holidays. The guy I was seeing actually split up with me the day before New Years Eve. Also it was in the middle of my two week vacation. I realize that this was the best thing for me and all but does anyone out there think that he could have at least waited to do this till AFTER my holidays and the Christmas season. Geesh. Sorry...maybe that was trivial..;-) We spent most of Christmas before he broke up with me being together but the whole time he was argumentative and critical. What a rotten Christmas season I had this year. Better off to forget it.

Anyhow...he said that he has been going through a bad time lately and he realizes that he has major problems with communication and needs time alone to reassess how he communicates with others and to figure out why he is such an unhappy, critical, argumentative person. He has always been the type who is never really happy, always finds faults with others and always looking for something else. I am surprised that we lasted as long as we did.

I know that I am better off without him and him breaking up with me was doing me a huge favour. But of course I am having a hard time with it now. I miss him very much even though he was such a hard critical person a lot of the time. And he was not good for my emotional health. That I know.

How do I manage to get past this? He also wants to see each other as friends and I am not sure if that is such a good idea.

I am of course still in touch with my ex husband and would like to see him in the future to see if we can get back some of our feelings.,.but I need to take time alone I am sure to get over this other guy.

Thanks for any comments anyone would like to make!!