On our desktop computer at home, we have three logins. Me, my husband, my daughter. Mostly so we can have our own programs and settings and files. But mine and his are both passworded. I don't get into his, he doesn't get into mine. Well, I get into his if I have to fix something....he's not a computer guru (neither am I, but I know more than him).

I also have many unfinished journals that I have been instructed to write in because of therapy, and I do NOT want him reading some of that stuff, especially some of the things I say about him that I could never say to his face.

So what I'm saying is, in a marriage it's okay to have a little bit of personal space and things that you don't necessarily share with your spouse. I actually think it's healthy.

However, if he gets rather upset about it - like you said he did - then maybe watch him for a little bit. Does he show any other signs of something going on that shouldn't be? Is he acting differently other than just when touching the iPod? Does his demeanor just seem different?

It could be anything, really. Maybe he was shopping online for a gift for you and didn't want to spoil the surprise. Maybe he's got into online gambling, or gaming. Maybe he spent a lot of money on Itunes and he's afraid you'll find out.

Or the worst maybe....he could be emailing or chatting with another woman.

But before you jump to the worst, explore all the options.