Yeah! I think the really odd thing about our relationship (with my T) was that he was prepared to be this surrogate figure for me and even really enjoyed that aspect of it. In a way, I feel like there was a connection at that level that is painful to break. But on the actual level where people interact, solve problems, negotiate, it was a very poor relationship. So that's where the difficulty was for me, sorting that out.

Do I need therapy for therapy? Well luckily there's always someone ready with a good point on the pc boards. But maybe it will be helpful to bring it up in the next round, who knows. I agree that more flexible and less "quirky" is better in a therapist.