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Old Mar 19, 2011, 06:45 AM
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The negative emotions are simply signs to us that there is a problem, that we need to do something to calm the emotion down a bit (like deep, diaphramatic breathing), to be able to think about what the problem is and how to solve it, and to finally take action to solve it.
In my childhood I learned that there was no possible action that I could take to solve my problems; any attempt to do so was crushed. So I learned defeat. I am not sure I ever unlearned that, since I was defeated so often even as an adult, due to not having the skills to succeed that I might have otherwise gotten in childhood.
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