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Old Mar 19, 2011, 09:22 AM
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Originally Posted by bpd2 View Post
. So, his no-touching policy hurts. When I asked for a hug, long ago, he said, "You, more than anyone, should know where hugging leads." ....and I was so ashamed that I had asked. So, nope, no hugs, not ever, even after four years.
I, too, was just flabbergasted when I read that. It's like he put it back on you for feeling the way you feel and refused any ownership at all.

Oh good lord. I am soooooo sorry. I soooo do not think there is any place at all for shame in therapy. We put enough of that crap on ourselves.

Have you talked to him about this?