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Old Mar 19, 2011, 11:38 AM
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Originally Posted by WePow View Post
Does anyone else ever feel too close to T and then feel themselves just pull away emotionally?

How do you work through it when this happens?
Yes, I started to realize I was getting too close about 3 months ago and it honestly scared the h*** out of me. Any person I've ever been dependent on or loved in a big way has left me. I had this terrifying feeling that my closeness was going to overwhelm him and he was going to leave me. Then, when I started having an issue with insurance, I was afraid I might not be able to do therapy anymore and I started to pull away to protect myself from the imminent loss I was about to experience.

The only way I have worked through it and gotten better...and let me clarify what I mean by "gotten better": I have not stopped trying to pull away or stopped believing I overwhelm him, I am just aware of it and accept it...is by talking about it with him. He knows that is what I'm used to and my greatest fear and pain comes from abandonment. We have to go through it quite a lot, but we work through it and understand each other much better.

Talk to your T Wepow...from what you say on here, he is wonderful and you can trust him with this...he will know what to say and do to help you through these feelings.
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Thanks for this!
WePow