See.....the whole thing is that no matter if you all lived in the same household for many years, each individual has specific memories and emotions from those times that we have really no clue about until they are told to us. Each individual has their own specific relationship with the parents and can vary greatly from our own.

I know that is true with my brother and I. We are not in contact very often anymore, I find him to be quite selfish (runs in the family unfortunately) and I can't deal with the "me me me, it's all about me). But, when we were talking, we would have a memory of a specific incident and we both had completely different experiences/emotions and saw things completely opposite of the other. What I learned from that is it's okay and quite normal and I'm not going to let his experience dictate to me how I'm going to feel about the parent or the incident. It was what it was for my brother and it was what it was for me. I'm good with all that