Dependency doesn't have to do with a diagnosis (though I think it does have to do with your early experiences, sometimes). But I think it's ok!!!!! Maybe trying to do therapy for any issue without dependency on the therapist is like trying to cook without heat. If you are constantly questioning your therapist's judgment you can't really be open to a new experience.

I think it depends what you mean by dependency too. When you know you can rely on someone, that is nice. I think some people are attached to their therapist but not quite sure about it all. Is that where you are? If so, maybe (and I don't know if this is your thing) as poetgirl said, part if it is going through the whole cycle-- when you let someone in, it changes who you are to start with. You're not the same you who started out so dependent.