I think what you are feeling is normal after leaving an abusive relationship, period. I wouldn't think about what problems your ex- might or might not have or what he is doing at all! Get your attention off him and on yourself, girl! You'd make him proud spending all this time and money figuring him out in YOUR therapy. He was abusive, you're out, that's it! Yes, it's a blow to your ego and sense of self and security but you should be concentrating and working on those things; not what's wrong with him.