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Old Mar 19, 2011, 03:39 PM
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Yup
did it this week with massage T then cried for 3 days because I missed her.
I usually call T or massage T when it happens and give them what little information I have about why or what is going on. Right now massage T is really pushing the limits of my experience of trust... but then... she isn't really doing anything out of the ordinary either... so... must all be in my head.
Both my T and massage T appreciate the heads up when I need to pull away for a little while. I think it helps them understand better if I am pulling away that session because of what we are working on or am I pulling away because of the "big picture". When I can tell them I need/want/am pulling away for a little while they usually are a little less intense with me in session (if I go). Both T and massage T have a "it will blow over soon enough" mentality about it... leaving me to be the only one with my unders in a bunch over it.
I pulled away from T for over a year with no sessions a while ago. It was really healing to be able to move away then come back. Now I know that I am not trapped in therapy and no decision has to be final. Object permanence at 30+
All relationships have an ebb and flow to them. Trust yourself, you have good instincts.
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Thanks for this!
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