Sounds like you are doing the wise thing even if your Mother doesn't think so. She is actually your PCA & you are the one that knows what you need & expect her to do. It's important that she answer to you & not anyone who isn't receiving her care.

I had a horrible experience with the home care person when my mother was dying of cancer.....won't go into it here.....but stealing was a huge part of the problem & ID theft another....along with a whole long list of other things. Luckily I was able to get her out of the house after only 5 days of terror......glad you haven't gone through anything like that & your problems are limited to not performing the tasks & goofing off when she is being paid to work.

Sorry that you Mother doesn't see the need to be more firm with her & thinks that lesser control will work. All I can say about that is that you could possibly try it your mothers way.....& if it doesn't work.....then you can do the "told you so" thing & go onto what you knew was necessary in the first place.

Hope it all works out well....maybe with her realizing that she has slipped into non-performance it will be enough to jog her back into action as she was when you originally hired her.

Many times people do a great job when first hired to guarantee the person will like them & feel good......then when the get comfortable feeling hits.....they slip into the non-performance mode.

Hoping it all works our well for you soon