What I've learned from my T is that the rational part of the brain will not understand - at least at first while we're letting ourselves 'go there'.

Something very very deep is hidden within you and it's crying to be released. I wonder if you stop trying to understand and just go with it for awhile, if it might lead to some amazing release.

Many of us have spent years repressing emotions and in order to be whole, we must allow them to come forth.

Thich Nhat Hanh writes about the wounded child: "Each time we're in touch with the experience of suffering, we believe we can't bear it, and we stuff our feelings and memories deep down in our unconscious mind. It may be that we haven't dared to face this child for many decades.

"Just because we may have ignored the child doesn't mean she or he isn't there. The wounded child is always there, trying to get our attention. The child says, 'I'm here. I'm here. You can't avoid me. You can't run away from me.'

"We want to end our suffering by sending the child to a deep place inside, and staying as far away as possible. But running away doesn't end our suffering; it only prolongs it.

"The wounded child asks for care and love, but we do the opposite. We run away because we're afraid of suffering. The block of pain and sorrow in us feels overwhelming.

"This child has been severely wounded. She or he really needs us to return. Instead we turn away. The wounded child is in each cell of our body."

He then offers some concrete suggestions on how to take care and soothe the wounded child.

Squiggle - we all need to listen to that child within us.