Honestly, I don't think that your mother doesn't like you......she probably really does LOVE you, but sounds like she's pretty overstressed & wrapped up in herself at this time. When a parent's in that mode, it has nothing to do with their liking or dis-liking you

So often as adults, we make poor choices in our lives based on what we believe we need to do to make ourselves feel better without taking our childrens needs into consideration when we are in the middle of stressful things in our life.

Sadly, most of those choices started long before the children were even born. Choice of who we marry is key to a successful marriage. Unsuccessful marriage places more pressure on the amount of working that is necessary to keep bills paid. The choice of amount of time she spends with her BF rather than children is a conscious choice, probably trying to make herself feel better about the whole situation she's in, or maybe trying to have a relationship work that might land her back in a more stable financial situation......whatever the choices she's making right now, it seems they are based on her feeling overstressed with the situation she has found her life in right now.

That has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Sadly, the choices we make for our own lives when we are feeling messed up, don't always take the feelings of our innocent children into consideration.....the worst part is that the children put the blame on themselves for something they have absolutely no responsibility for & no control over & aren't even the reason why the parent is having problems in the first place & sadly, there is NOTHING they can do to fix the parents problem....& yet children feel the more responsibility for how the parent is feeling than the parent feels responsibility for how their children are feeling in situations like you are describing.

Then when the children get older & into therapy.....there becomes the realization of the neglect that occurred during our childhood from our parent(s) not being there for us when we needed them to care.

Basically, the only thing you really can to is NOT put the weight of fixing the problem (making her like you again...which really isn't what is going on here).

Praying that your situation will change & your mother will come to the realization of how she is effecting you & all her children.